It’s not about love. It’s about commitment. There’s no become one. There are two people in this. Just because two people married, they not become one. In this world, there’s no exact match. There’s no identical human beings. So, We must see our partner is deferent. He or she has different goals, different tastes and different opinions. When we come to this point, we must appreciate those things. Don’t go for change them. ( I know almost everyone do that in some level..) Every time remember your two are not one. You are two different persons. You have some level of same goals and same tastes. But it’s not going to be always. There will be times that you can’t agree on some thing. I mean even little bit. It’s okay. It’s jut normal, it means you are normal people.
Bottom line is, don’t pretend some body else. Don’t afraid to do what you like, the way you like it. But, remember one thing, that you are not alone. You have a partner who’s different human being with different thoughts than you. But the same time that person willing to be with you in your whole life. So, that means something. That’s the commitment. So, when ever, what ever, how ever you do something think how this affect your partner. How he or she will react to this. Try to figure out that. In time, you will understand each other. (another main thing in marriage..) When you have some understanding, don’t be over confident. Most of us think we can understand our partners completely. I think that’s a lie. Human beings are complicated. Even psychologists wrong some times. So, if you are wrong about some thing, just don’t be overly sad or angry. It’s natural.
I’m not going to talk about sex literary. Because I just talked about sex.
So, don’t be angry if something goes wrong. Don’t be sad. Just be our self. Don’t try to change your partner, instead try to understand and try to make your partner happy. Do sacrifices. It doesn’t matter you are going different paths. What matters is, in the end of the day, you have someone to be with. Someone to talk to. Someone to raise a child with. Some one to help you.
I think I talked about LOVE in this post, the thing that marriage keeps alive.
Yeah.. Tend to pretend to be someone else is a thing that all of us do to some extent. Starting a relationship with pretending is the end of it. 'Coz, you won't be able to live like that forever. Obviously, one day your mask will be ripped of by your own self. Trust, understanding & the commitment should be there. :)
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